full of moxie and viscosity

A crazy revelation whilst talking to Jenny Cole about the future:

My husband will not have to necessarily fill all of the requirements I have currently decided are so important... he will fill our relationship the way it needs to be filled, but it is very unrealistic to think of him as the placeholder for all of the categories- for example: I cannot expect each of my friends to be cry shoulders, shopping buddies, sexperts, intellectual stimulators, philisophical mind benders, laugh factories, dancing queens, artistic understanders, AND live music show attenders. So why would I assume that my romantic partner could fill all of those categories as well? I need to stop thinking of categories and start realizing the beauty within the man (men) to whom I am exposed. Relationships are individual, breathing things. Not category fillers. All at once I feel watered and fed.